By KALANI CHEN-HAYES, age 9
After the presentation on supporting LGBTQIA boys and sons of same-gender parents. Left to Right: presenters Dr. Shari Tarver-Behring, Chuck Tarver-Behring, Christian Burch, Kalani Chen-Hayes, Dr. Lance Chen-Hayes and Dr. Stuart Chen-Hayes. PHOTO: Dr. Lance Chen-Hayes
Each year, I get to travel 3,000 miles from New Jersey to San Diego, California to help out with a conference called Supporting Students ~ Saving Lives. The conference is sponsored by CESCAL (The Center for Excellence in School Counseling and Leadership) and is very important for teaching educators and adults who work with young people how to support LGBTQIA (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer/questioning, intersex and ally) students. Some of these students are harassed or bullied so much for their sexuality or gender that they are at risk of hurting themselves or being hurt by others. This education is becoming even more necessary as technology advances and online bullying increases.
Kalani sharing a copy of IndyKids and interviewing CSU-Northridge Freshman Chuck Tarver-Behring on his leadership role as a gay student fighting homophobia last year as a high school senior and head of his school’s GSA in Canyon Country, CA. PHOTO: Dr. Lance Chen-Hayes
I have fun teaching educators about LGBTQIA issues. My dads and I (notice that I said dads, because I have two) present on a different topic each year. I always do a presentation on books with LGBTQIA characters that one of my dads and I have read together. This year the topic was about gay boys and sons of gay dads. I got to present with Chuck Tarver-Behring, a college freshman from California State University Northridge, who spoke about leading his high school’s GSA (Gay-Straight Alliance) and challenging homophobia (fear or hatred of gay people), Christian Burch, a Wyoming high school teacher and author of The Manny Files and Hit the Road, Manny, and my dads.
Kalani interviewing Wyoming high school teacher and author of The Manny Files and Hit the Road, Manny, Christian Burch at CESCAL conference. PHOTO: Dr. Lance Chen-Hayes
Other topics covered at the conference included: supporting LGBTQIA student athletes, creating GSAs, stopping LGBTQIA bullying and creating policies to make schools safe for everyone. I am definitely looking forward to going again next year!
Below are some resources that we included in our presentation packet:
- Ally Week
- Athlete Ally
- Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE)
- Day of Silence
- Faith in America
- Family Acceptance Project
- FIERCE
- Gay, Lesbian, Straight Education Network
- Gay Straight Alliance Network
- Gay Straight Alliance Network International
- GLBT Youth Talkline: 1-800-246-PRIDE
- It Gets Better Project
- LGBT-Friendly Campus Climate Index
- Live Out Loud
- Make It Better Project
- Matthew Shepard Foundation/Matthew’s Place
- National Safe Schools Roundtable
- NOH8 Campaign
- Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG)
- Point Foundation: LGBT scholarships for college
- Trans Student Equality Resources
- TransActive Education and advocacy for trans children and youth
- TransFamily
- Transgender Basics
- TransYouthFamilyAllies
- The Trevor Project
- The Trevor Lifeline (24-hour confidential free LBGT/questioning crisis/suicide prevention hotline): 866-4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386)
- True Child
- We Happy Trans
- Welcoming Schools Project
- Youth and Gender Media Project
What a great article! I’m glad that Kalani is educating teachers on these issues. We teachers need to learn more about how to better support our LGBTQIA students. Thank you for the links, too! (but some of them aren’t working)